When success stories are
written in the annals of Nollywood, Oge Okoye’s name cannot be overlooked.
Gorgeous and gifted, Okoye, who hugged the klieg light in 2001 with the movies,
“Caesar to Caesar” and “Spanner”, not only conquered Nollywood, she captivated
and wowed her fans with blistering and daring acting, so much that her memory
continues to linger in the minds of movie buffs.
Today,
after two kids, the star of numerous blockbusters remains evergreen. She is not
only relevant in the industry after about 11 years, but has also broadened her
horizon to become multifaceted and a sought-after diva.
In this
encounter, the soft spoken entertainer went gaga and revealed her other side
when Entertainment Express asked an innocent question about her sexual
appetite.
“What
kind of question are you asking me?...How I make love…that is my personal life
and I think personal things should remain personal,” she fumes.
Okoye who
was recently honoured with a Doctorate degree by Wisconsin International
University, USA, further bared her mind on other germane issues and sketched a
broad outline of her real self. We present the riveting interview, raw and
uncut.
So when
and how did you meet your husband?
It was
really not love at first sight, I personally don’t believe in love at first
sight. I believe in working it out, knowing ourselves, to see if we are
compatible, so that is what exactly happened between me and my husband. We were
friends at first and it was going on like that till we got married in 2005.
How does
he feel about the romantic scenes you play in movies?
He has
never complained. I really don’t know if he feels bad, but I know that being a
human being like I am, he might be feeling bad inside but he is not showing it.
He encourages me a lot; he is always there for me. Besides, he doesn’t watch my
movies.
At a
point your marriage was widely reported to have hit the rocks; surprisingly,
you didn’t come out to clear the rumour, what actually happened then?
I don’t
have business responding to such falsehoods. I don’t know the people peddling
such rumours and I have no business with it.
So are
you saying the marriage is still intact?
What do
you mean? Is like you have another mission! Why won’t my marriage be intact?
Please nothing has happened to my marriage. I really don’t know why people
would be interested in breaking our marriages; nothing like that exists. It
amazes me the way people go about talking about a marriage break up that does
not exist. I’m happily married and I don’t want to discuss my personal life.
Since he
is not living with you here in Nigeria, how do you cope with the numerous male
admires?
Of course
everybody knows that I’m married; I wonder what anybody would still want from
me.
So how do
you relieve when you have feelings?
What kind
of feelings are you talking about?
Sexual
feelings, to be specific
I think
that is my personal life. What kind of questions are you asking me? I think you
will soon ask me how I make love with my husband. Basically, that is my
personal life and I think personal things should remain personal.
One
should have expected that you attend an event with your husband whenever he is
in Nigeria so as to clear the numerous rumours of broken marriage trailing your
person, why don’t you usually do that?
I don’t
think that is necessary.
So where
is that lucky man from?
He is
from Imo State and I am from Nnewi, in Anambra State.
What is
one good thing that marriage has done to you?
I think
it has made me more mature.
Your last
born is about two years, how soon are we going to be celebrating the arrival of
the third one?
I believe
God’s time is the best.
But would
there be anyone by this time next year?
Actually,
we are not ready for any other one now. We are taking a little break from child
bearing.
After two
kids, you still look youthful and sexy; what is the secret behind this?
Really!
Maybe because I’m slim naturally. Apart from that, I exercise a lot. I do all
kinds of exercises from cycling to normal stretching. I think that is what has
been helping me to stay in shape.
How far
can you go to interpret a role, especially the ones involving nudity?
I do
everything within my capacity to ensure that I perfectly interpret my roles.
But one thing I cannot do is to go stark naked. But I could do other sensual
roles but for nudity, I wouldn’t. Our society abhors it.
What
about such things as smoking, as some of your colleagues do?
Why
should I smoke? Has anybody told you that I smoke? I don’t have to do that, I
don’t do it and I don’t think I will ever indulge in that if that is what you
are asking.
But some
of your colleagues do; do you see anything wrong with it?
I think
that is their personal business. I don’t have anything to say about that. I
don’t interfere in someone else’s private life, as much as I don’t want anybody
to interfere in mine.
Most of
your colleagues are said to be into lesbianism, how have you been coping with
their amoral advances?
I’ve
never encountered one. I don’t want to doubt the existence of such but I’ve
never encountered anyone. So I can’t be talking about what I don’t know about.
Generally,
what is your view about the act?
You and I
know it's wrong; I don’t think it’s something anybody should be practicing.
If given
the opportunity to erase anything in your past, what would you’ve erased?
I think
the only the thing I would’ve loved to erase is the death of my father. It was
such a bad experience that haunted me for years.
He was
such a lovely father anybody would pray to have. It’s been long, so I’ve tried
to put it behind me.
What kind
of man epitomizes your ideal man?
My ideal
man should be hard working, must look good, and at same time have the fear of
God
Are those
things what attracted you to your husband?
I won’t
talk about what attracted me to my husband. What attracted me to him is not
something I would want to start talking about. It’s personal.
Since
your marriage is still intact, what effort did you put in to sustain it till
date?
It’s all
about loving someone unconditionally, trusting the person and at the same time
being tolerant. These are the ingredients of a lasting relationship, and I
think they are part of what has sustained mine as well.
Are these
ingredients lacking in the failed marriages recorded by your colleagues?
I don’t
know what could have caused their failed marriages. It’s only the person that
wears the shoe that knows where it pinches. It is their private lives; I don’t
know what caused their breakups and I don’t think is something I would want to
know. Just as I like keeping some things private, I also like allowing people
their privacies.
Unlike
your colleagues, you got married back in 2004; were you under pressure to marry
since you are the only child of your parents?
It wasn’t
because of that. I fell in love with a man and we ended up getting married.
Nobody ever pressurized me into marriage
How did
you go about settling your rifts with your friends, Ini Edo and Chioma Toplis?
Who told
you there was any rift? As far as I’m concerned I don’t have any rift with
anybody.
Does that
mean you’ve settled with them?
I don’t
know what you are talking about, and please I don’t have an answer to that
question.
If you
had known all that you know today, what did you do in the past that you would
you’ve done differently now?
I don’t
really know what I would have done differently; I think I did everything I’ve
done based on the prevailing circumstances. I don’t regret anything I did in
the past. I know I must have made some mistakes, but I try not to remember them
because I have already forged ahead. Whatever mistake I made in the past has
been confined to history, I’m now looking ahead to what the future has got to
offer.
What were
these mistakes?
There you
go again. I think that is my personal life, which I would want to remain
personal.
Share
with us what life has taught you over the years?
Frankly
speaking, life has taught me to be independent, to never give up no matter what
I’m facing, to always believe in myself, to work hard and always remain
focused. I’ve come to understand that everybody can be a better person, and
everything anybody needs to succeed in life is in that person.
Most
producers are currently lamenting on the evil effect of piracy; does the menace
affect what you are currently paid for jobs?
It
hasn’t. I feel that whatever I’m getting is what I’m supposed to get. But the
menace is a very big challenge to the industry; you find out that before one’s
film is released someone somewhere would have already released a pirated copy,
it’s painful. I believe there will be a change if the government finally puts
an end to it; it’s something that must be collectively fought against.