Top 10 sex tips

follow these 10 top tips for better sex NOW! 

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Raunchy roleplay

Dressing up as a character from your wildest sex fantasy can feel pretty damn good..but what if you're feeling a little self-conscious to get things started? Andy_most_pandy gives great advice on conquering pre-roleplay nerves…
"Dress up and get into character well before you get down to business. For example, you could be the sexy secretary (specs, white blouse, pencil skirt, tights and heels.) Start downstairs and get him to dictate a letter to you. Then after a bit bring up the fact that you want a raise in your salary. That's when he suggests that you go upstairs to discuss terms. The thing is, you have to live the part. Be his sexy secretary.." Sounds like fun!

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Don't stress if he can't get it up every time

So you're getting hot and heavy in the bedroom - until he can't get it up. Then what do you do? According to Bluebell_91 the trick is to relax.


"You just have to support him through it but try not to draw too much attention to it. Don't spend ages comforting him about it after it happens, just give him a cuddle and move on. Try your best not to keep discussing it with him because it will make him feel even more anxious,   which will lead to a vicious cycle. Things will soon get back to normal!"

Have fun on top

Some of the ladies in our forums have complained they find it difficult to have sex on top. But Andcar has a few tips to share: "Lube can be your best friend! The more lubricated you are, the easier it is to do girl-on-top. Try climbing on top of him when he is sitting and easing yourself onto him, as this angle is slightly easier. Also being relaxed is important, because nerves can cause tightness and that makes it very difficult. So breathe, use lube, and have fun!" Great advice…

It's the motion in the ocean…

If the size of your guy's penis is a little smaller than you'd hope for, don't let it ruin your sex life. Mia_Atonia_S suggests a few sex positions that can help you reach the big 'O':
"Some positions may help enhance friction against the G Spot. You on top facing him with the angle of his penis entering upwards towards your belly. Doggie style again with the angle of the penis entering you towards your belly. The G Spot is about two inches inside your vagina on its upper wall.

Mutual masturbation

Does he love watching porn? How about you watch porn together, for mind-blowing sex? Cosmo forum user Mia_Antonia_S says:


"Watch porn and masturbate together. Probably initially each one will touch his/her self, which may lead to touching one another, and surely to sex." Saucy

Blow his mind with the perfect blow job

Going down on your man may not be everybody's cup of tea - but oral sex can definitely be made more pleasurable for you. Misslisey has a fab tip - just treat his manhood like a sweet treat…


"Treat it like a lollipop! Suck hard, suck soft and the best is to roll your tongue around it so the under part of your tongue is massaging the tip ( u know not the top part where the tastes buds are but under aha) now for being turned on yourself. Your man is completely turned on. You'll have complete control over him what could be a bigger turn on then that?"

Reassure him when he's hitting the right spots

Everybody needs reassurance from time to time, and even more so in bed. He secretly wants to know that he is pleasing you, so why not let reassure him and let him know when he is?

Follow Cosmo's forum user Paynebyname's advice:
"Guys like to be reassured/reminded that when they do things to you that they are great at it and you are loving it (obviously they might not be the best but just go with it). Similarly when a girl is fooling around with a guy, giving head for instance, they want to know  that you are actually enjoying it rather than just doing it because you feel you should. A moan of pleasure here and there can go a very long way…" We couldn't agree more.

Surprise him…sexually

If your sex life is become a bit of a routine, here is an exciting way to add some variety. Sammyharb recommends a treat of sexual favours…
For one week (or how ever long you'd like!) make little envelope of sexual favours for him to pull out and use whenever he wishes. Keep each sexual favour a secret so it will really surprise him when you transform into a sex goddess, just for him…

Seek a sexual adventure

If you are yearning for your man to be more adventurous with sex perhaps you would both benefit from subtle hints. How about following Lynie89's advice, who suggests leaving your boyfriend a note telling him what you'd like to try? You can be as detailed as you like - and if you live together, perhaps writing your message with magnetic letters on the fridge will give him a lovely surprise in the morning…

Game playing

Cosmo forum user Becky92 suggests a fun game which is likely to leave him wanting to rip your clothes off and make you feel so empowered! The rules? No touching…
"Some of the best foreplay I've ever experienced stems from the 'no touching' game. You can do anything you want to your guy but he's not allowed to touch you - the best part is being able to tease him for absolutely ages. Naturally he'll return the favour - it's a great way to bond in the bedroom."